Is Your Label Trapping You?

It all changed for me when I was a social worker and realized that it wasn’t only my clients — troubled teenagers, challenged adults and people with prison sentences — who were trapped by their life conditions and labels such as poor, uneducated, addict or criminal.

I, too, was trapped in my role as mother and wife in a small country town, feeling isolated and depressed. My husband was unwilling to move, so to honor my truth I was forced to make a difficult decision, leaving the kids with their father in their country town home.

There is so much judgement around how a mum “should” be, how a wife “should” be, and it all felt small and limited to me. I felt stuck, like I was in a cave and I wanted to have myself in my life and be happy again, for me and for the kids. It required a lot of courage and trust in myself, to protect myself against the judgement people project at me, my kids and my ex-husband. I adore them and without us all trying...

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Is the Only Right way to Mother from Home with your Kids?

I had this wonderful dream of being the most perfect stay at home mom—cooking my children the most wonderful meals, doing the most fun activities, having the best toys for them, playing and doing handicrafts and educating my kids with the best material. Basically, I would be the greatest mom imaginable.

After the first couple of year of motherhood, I realized that I was not fitting into my own expectations and projections or being the perfect mom. Motherhood did not look and feel like I thought it would, and many times it was not what I decided it should be! Most often I felt really wrong for not achieving my own goals of motherhood and I made myself feel worse by constantly comparing myself to other moms.

My neighbor had four kids in six years and loves being a stay home mom. She sometimes has my two kids at her house in the afternoon too, and she has so much ease with all those kids! She cooks every day, helps them with homework, organizes the whole family and keeps a...

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Mother Guilt. Is It Killing You Slowly?

                                                                     | Magyar |

There is almost no mom out there that hasn’t felt guilt around parenting. How often do you allow guilt to eat at you over the choices you make? Guilt is where you judge yourself for not being enough, not doing enough and not fitting in other people’s standards of what is good, right, correct and appropriate. There are plenty of “hot” issues that moms can judge themselves about: breastfeeding vs. the bottle, staying at home or returning to work, being a single parent or co-parent, “healthy” vs. “unhealthy” food and diet, being a “cool and calm” mom vs. a helicopter mom—just to name a few!

If we don’t consciously choose beyond guilt, we can risk spending our...

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